The medical field is a whole new dimension, and to date someone from it is another galactic experience you don’t want or want to experience.
They will bring you to another territory full of people who bleed caffeine while fully clothed in white. They will also instantly make you fall in love with how they perfectly manage their multi-colored highlighters and thick magnanimous books that sometimes serve as their pillows. Their fluency in the anatomy of the body will inexplicably turn you on. “Dat gluteus maximus” would be one of those things you would actually look forward to after long exposures to random tongue twisters you call “generic names” like medroxyprogesterone or something like that.
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Your husband doesn’t have to earn your respect -
Often, people will say that a husband should only be respected if he “earns” it. This attitude is precisely the problem. A wife ought to respect her husband because he is her husband, just as he ought to love and honor her because she is his wife. Your husband might “deserve” it when you mock him, berate him, belittle him, and nag him, but you don’t marry someone in order to give them what they deserve. In marriage, you give them what you’ve promised them, even when they aren’t holding up their end of the bargain.
This doesn’t mean that a man has a license to be lazy, or abusive, or uncaring. He is challenged to live up to the respect his wife affords him. If his wife parcels out her respect on some sort of reward system basis, the husband has nothing for which to strive. As the respect diminishes, so too does his motivation to behave respectably. Respect is wielded like a ransom against him, and he grows more isolated and distant all the while.
They both swirl in circles around the drain. He fails, so she gives him no respect, and then he continues to fail because he feels disrespected, and she continues to give him no respect because he continues to fail. And so on, and so on, and so on, all the way to the divorce attorney.
The same thing happens with love. If love is unconditional, then the light of love always shines in your marriage, even in its darkest times. But if your love is given in direct proportion to your spouse’s ability to “earn” it, then it will inevitably diminish and fade over time.
Love in a marriage is, as people often point out, a choice. But it’s also a duty. So is respect. I love my wife because I choose to love her. I choose to love her because that is the vow I made; it is my charge, my warrant. Luckily, it’s usually pretty easy to love my wife because she’s kind, warmhearted, and beautiful. But if she becomes less kind, and I withdraw my love because of it, then my love was never love to begin with. It was just a pleasant feeling; a natural response to her nicer tendencies.
This is not to say that women should tolerate a man who fails in his duties, but that her intolerance for his failures can only be constructive if it is rooted in respect. Sadly, many women will approach their husbands and say:“You need to stop doing such and such or start doing such and such, because you’re a failure and I don’t respect you.”
She might not explicitly state this, but it is the message she implicitly sends. There is zero chance that this message will help to heal the damage; it only plunges another dagger into the already gaping wound.
A great perspective on what marriage really entails - mutual unconditional love and respect for one another as a true reflection of the Gospel.
God is my rest, not my circumstances. — Pastor Bland Mason, City on a Hill Church
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Narrative Humility : The Lancet -
"Narrative humility suggests the possibilities of something transcendent, what Broyard calls the opportunity to become “transfigured”. It approaches what has been called mindfulness in medicine. Indeed, humility is a central aspect of many spiritual traditions, whereby the stance of humility is one that enables not only personal growth, but is a hallmark of some degree of spiritual enlightenment—whereby the most learned monks are the most humble, recognising how much they have left to learn. This does not imply that physicians abandon their scientific knowledge, or their sense of “competence”. Rather, narrative humility enables a physician to place herself in a position of receptivity, where she does not merely act upon others, but is in turn acted upon.
So much of a doctor’s life consists of stories. Narrative humility is a point of entry into those stories, allowing us to reconfigure our own relationships to the work of doctoring, to the Other before us, and to the Self within.”
#InstagrammingAfrica: The Narcissism of Global Voluntourism - Pacific Standard: The Science of Society -
"In the end, the Africa we voluntourists photograph isn’t a real place at all. It is an imaginary geography whose landscapes are forged by colonialism, as well as a good deal of narcissism. I hope my fellow students think critically about what they are doing and why before they sign up for a short-term global volunteer experience. And if they do go, it is my hope that they might think with some degree of narrative humility about how to de-center themselves from the Western savior narrative. Most importantly, I hope they leave their iPhones at home."
When Suits Become a Stumbling Block: A Plea to My Brothers in Christ* | The Salt Collective -
Haha, a perspective from the other side :)
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